Feeling Like a Failure?
Then Change the Channel

Are you feeling like a failure in life?

Here’s the more important question:Are you surrounding yourself with failure without even knowing it?

Let me tell you something about the Australian mountain ash tree. They’re the second-tallest trees in the world, almost as tall as the redwoods in California. But believe it or not, these enormous trees all come from a seed about 3 millimeters across.

Here’s the thing: When an Australian mountain ash seed is put in the wrong climate, or in the wrong soil, or in the wrong weather conditions, it remains JUST a tiny seed. The magnificent tree remains locked within, never to see the light of day.

Only when the environment is right will the mighty tree sprout from the seed. And when they DO sprout, they can grow for hundreds of years, reaching more than a hundred meters tall.

And that’s my message for you today. For many people, the problem isn’t that you’re NOT great – you’re simply in the wrong environment!

3 SIGNS YOU’RE IN THE WRONG ENVIRONMENT

Here’s a quick checklist to see whether your surroundings are actually binding you to failure:

#1: You, or the People Around You, have a “Blaming” Mindset.

When things don’t go the way you want, do you tend to look for someone or something to blame? If you do, then guess what – it’s an attitude that prevents you from achieving big things.

#2: You, or the People Around You, “Hate” Certain Things.

Now, it’s normal to dislike certain things. But when you HATE things – so much that you wish something BAD would happen to it – then it means you’re focusing on precisely the wrong things in life.

#3: You Take Criticism Badly.

When someone criticizes you or your work, do you take it badly? Do you get hurt, or get defensive, or get angry? Do you start wondering whether you should be doing something else?

If you do, then it’s a sign that you rely too much on other people’s approval – and that’s going to keep you from achieving your goals in life!

Make no mistake: When you’re in the wrong environment, you tend to stay STUCK in the wrong environment until something changes. And if you’ve been stuck in an environment of negativity and failure for a long, long time… then it’s time for a CHANGE!

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Now, let me do a quick throwback to tell you what it’s like to be in the RIGHT environment…

THE POWER OF BEING IN THE RIGHT ENVIRONMENT

Some of you might already know my story. When I was young, I had problems with my joints. I wanted to be a pro basketball player, but all the doctors told me the same thing: “You’ll never have a career in sports.”

Now here’s the thing: Back then, I may have been down and out. I may have been abandoned and adopted. I may have been stuck in a bad neighborhood.

But I had one thing going for me: A pair of foster parents who loved me, who nurtured me, and who surrounded me with the RIGHT environment at home. It was an environment of hope, responsibility, love, confidence, and strength.

I didn’t use my joint problems as an excuse to give up and try something else. I didn’t HATE the doctors for telling me I had no future in sports. And I didn’t lose hope.

I simply thanked my doctors for doing their jobs, went home, and got right to work. I played basketball for hours every day. I devised a playing style that didn’t put too much pressure on my joints while still letting me play on both ends of the floor. And I never gave up.

I went on to play for 14 great years in the National Basketball League.

Looking back, here’s what I’ve learned: All it took for me to prove my doctors wrong was the GOOD environment I had at home. That’s all it took. And it altered the course of my entire life.

Here’s another thing: When I was young, my doctors ALSO told me I wouldn’t amount to much because I had a learning defect. I had problems with reading. Looking back, I think I may have had mild dyslexia, and it made things REALLY tough.

Again, all I had was the right environment at home. Not only did I learn to read, but I even wrote a couple of books, and now I’m traveling the world as an activational speaker, youth mentor, and business coach.

Here’s my message: If you’re stuck in an endless cycle of failure, mediocrity, and frustration, and if you’re constantly surrounded by negativity and hate and blame, I got three words for you:

CHANGE THE CHANNEL!

When you’re watching TV and you don’t like what’s on, you don’t sit around complaining about it, right? You change the channel until you find a show you DO like!

And that’s what you need to do in your life right now. You got to get rid of the “channels” that make you feel like a failure, and tune in to channels that propel you closer to your goals!

And that means you got to do three things:

#1: Stop Blaming. Whenever you blame someone or something for your bad luck, it means you’re secretly waiting for that someone or something to save you. Don’t wait to be saved: Instead, take responsibility for your situation!

#2: Stop Hating. Understand that there are things beyond your control in life. Forget about those things, and focus your attention and energy on the things you CAN change!

#3: Stop Waiting for Approval. Stop waiting for someone to pat you on the back. In fact, stop talking to yourself and convincing yourself you’re “doing fine.” Instead, just work, work, and work. Let your results be your motivation!

So right now, change the channels in your life. Look at your life right now, and ask yourself: What’s the one problem that’s keeping me from becoming successful?

Do you tend to look for something to blame? Do you focus too much on the things you hate? Do you rely too much on the approval of other people?

Do you hang out with the wrong kinds of people? Do you watch too much TV? Do you rely too much on your comfort zone?

Before you finish reading this article, get a sheet of paper. At the top, write down the BIGGEST BAD HABIT in your life that’s making you feel like a failure today.

Below it, write down two or three ways it’s keeping you from achieving your goals in life.

And then below that, write down two or three things you can do TODAY and THIS WEEK to get that big bad habit out of the way.

And below it, write down in BIG letters: CHANGE THE CHANNEL!

Now tape it to the wall, read it everyday, and then – most importantly – EXECUTE!

Remember, you don’t need to keep watching the same show in your life. In fact, you got to realize you’re the SCRIPTWRITER. In your life, YOU write the script, YOU run the show, and YOU decide the happy ending.

So change the channel to a better life. Stop feeling like a failure, and become the winner you were made to be.

Stay humble and hungry,

ERIC BAILEY

P.S.: Check out my “CHANGE THE CHANNEL” video on Monday Morning Activation on YouTube, and don’t forget to subscribe! Click here to see it.

 

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Posted on July 20, 2015 in Blog

Responses (31)

  1. Caitlin
    July 20, 2015 at 2:37 pm ·

    Once again, another excellent post! The three things you listed above in the checklist and the three things to stop doing are huge! If we could all change those “channels” in our lives, the world might be a much better place. Keep up the good work!

    • Daryl Myers
      July 28, 2015 at 8:20 pm ·

      I agree with you, Caitlin. You make a good point and the fact that this post is very motivational is even better!

  2. Kelly
    July 20, 2015 at 6:47 pm ·

    Great title – Change the Channel! I definitely want to say this to a few people at work. Negative attitudes, attracts negative outcomes and creates a negative environment, so it definitely makes sense to avoid people that are ‘haters’ or ‘blamers’ and if you’re one of those people, you’ve got it spot on, it’s time to change. I guess the good thing about this – it’s never too late to change!

  3. George Harold
    July 22, 2015 at 4:15 pm ·

    Hey Eric! Your blogs are helping me in all areas on my life. Can you give me some hints of how to stay positive and not quit when things get hard?

    • EBG
      July 23, 2015 at 3:02 am ·

      Hi George, I am happy to hear that my blogs are helping you out. Here are 3 points that you can focus on to stay positive and not quit.

      1. Focus on what is important to you
      2. Ask yourself – “Who else can help me achieve my goals?”
      3. Be thankful for everything you have accomplished and remember there is much more of that to come.

      • Joey Benson
        July 29, 2015 at 12:47 pm ·

        These are all very good tips! Thank you again for all that you do with your speeches, coaching and through this blog!

  4. Crystal Sandoval
    July 22, 2015 at 4:19 pm ·

    You seem to really know how to be a life coach. After reading through some of your articles, I have a few questions, do I just email them to you? Thanks!

    • EBG
      July 23, 2015 at 2:57 am ·

      Absolutely Crystal! Just drop me a line at info@ericbaileyglobal.com and I will be happy to answer your questions.

  5. Tammy Cooper
    July 22, 2015 at 4:24 pm ·

    You are right about being in the RIGHT environment! The folks that you hang out with can be very influential in your life. It is important to pick the right ones!

  6. Dan Yates
    July 25, 2015 at 5:01 pm ·

    Life coaching can be very good for people, especially young adults that seem to be on a bad path.

  7. Curtis Christensen
    July 25, 2015 at 5:02 pm ·

    Very good post. Do you think this is something that you share with someone who you think needs a little “changing of the channels” they are involved in?

    • EBG
      July 28, 2015 at 1:45 am ·

      Hi Curtis,
      Yes I do. I care about people’s future and legacy and I do believe passionately that it can help anyone, provided they have an open mind.

      • Brendan Robbins
        July 28, 2015 at 8:16 pm ·

        I also agree that you can help a person with an open mind, that is the main key.

  8. Cornelius Brewer
    July 25, 2015 at 5:04 pm ·

    I never really thought about those that I hung with back in the day as being a major influence, but they certainly can be. For a long time I was on the wrong path and I think a major player was my environment.

  9. Laura Griffith
    July 28, 2015 at 5:13 pm ·

    I used to work in a place that always had negative tones to it. The conversation was bad, usually about the company and things they were doing to employees, etc. After a while I could tell it was taking a toll on me. Is this what you mean by the “right environment”?

    • EBG
      July 29, 2015 at 6:41 am ·

      Absolutely Laura. It is very important to surround yourself with people who are in a position to help you achieve your goals rather than criticize you or are always negative. These people tend to find themselves blaming others rather than finding solutions. Do you best to stay positive! It can be hard but it is worth it in the end.

    • EBG
      July 30, 2015 at 10:26 pm ·
  10. Ricky Pearson
    July 28, 2015 at 5:15 pm ·

    I always felt that if you needed a change in your life that it would be something easy to do. Know that I am older, I see that getting yourself away from the habits you have is not as easy. It takes something to “change the channel” and I think that you have the right idea!

  11. Laverne Diaz
    July 28, 2015 at 5:17 pm ·

    I have subscribed to your channel. I could use a little more motivation to make some changes in my life. Thank you for the chance!

  12. Craig Hampton
    July 28, 2015 at 5:21 pm ·

    I wrote down that my biggest bad habit was procrastination. That keeps me from many things. I also have a fear, not really a bad habit, of failure. That doesn’t help either!

  13. Alfonso Cruz
    July 28, 2015 at 8:18 pm ·

    Personally, I did not think that I “hated” a lot of things, but a few months back, my mother was talking to me about how negative I have become. It was due to a relationship that I had been in the last few months. It seemed that I was getting that way because of the people I hung around with at the time.

  14. Helen Farmer
    July 28, 2015 at 8:19 pm ·

    My child could use some help. He is just a teen, but I feel he is going down the wrong path due to my husband and I, plus the folks he associates with after this school is out.

    Is there anything that we can do to get him into a program like this?

  15. Wendell Castro
    July 28, 2015 at 8:21 pm ·

    There are a lot of resources for changing your life, but I personally get motivated when reading through your website. “Change the Channel” is a great catch phrase and I think most people would be able to relate to the topics discussed here.

  16. Loren Santiago
    July 29, 2015 at 12:45 pm ·

    You are right about the three signs of being in the wrong environment. I went through something like that in high school and I am glad that I got away from it. My life is better, I feel better and when I look back I still cannot believe how I got there.

  17. Cindy Kim
    July 29, 2015 at 12:46 pm ·

    I have heard of your system and all the great things you have helped with in terms of “changing the channel”, but sometimes it is not that easy to “get away” from the wrong people. What do you suggest in that case?

    • EBG
      July 30, 2015 at 5:30 am ·

      Hi Cindy,
      I agree that sometimes it isn’t that easy to get away from the wrong type of people. If you find yourself in this situation, you need to be mindful of the fact that they are negative and try and acknowledge that fact without getting ‘sucked in’ to their negative energy. If you are aware of it, you are in a better position to not let it take control of you. Often, we find ourselves getting sucked in because we don’t protect ourselves!

  18. Stewart Thomas
    July 30, 2015 at 5:04 pm ·

    This is a very good post. I have one question, do you find it difficult to crack a person and get them to change the channel when they have a closed mind about it?

    • EBG
      July 30, 2015 at 10:24 pm ·

      Hi Stewart,
      If someone has a closed mind about ‘changing the channel’ despite all your efforts, you just need to be supportive. It is very difficult but you can’t force someone to change their ways if they don’t see value in your suggestions.

  19. Clyde Walton
    July 30, 2015 at 5:05 pm ·

    I have heard very good things about your speeches. I have a son that might need to get his channel changed and I would prefer it be sooner than later. What kind of time frame do you typically think it takes for your inspiration to take hold?

    • EBG
      July 30, 2015 at 10:22 pm ·

      Hi Clyde,
      Thanks for your kind comments. I understand that you would like your son to ‘get his channel changed’ sooner rather than later but this is not something that anyone can really determine. You can guide and encourage your son to make the best decisions but he also needs to be in the right place emotionally for this to happen. I would love to be able to give you a time-frame but this just isn’t possible. Everyone is different and there are so many factors that come into play. My suggestion is to try and be patient and supportive.

    • EBG
      February 16, 2016 at 6:34 am ·

      It really depends on how committed the person is to make the change. I would say 21 days.

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