Have you ever found yourself thinking: “I am a loser?” If so, then I wrote this article for you.
Let me ask you a question: What’s the opposite of success?
If you answered “failure,” then sorry – you’re wrong! Failure might be the LITERAL opposite of success, but in the real world, things are very different.
Because here’s the truth: In the real world, success is BUILT on failure.
After all, we all make mistakes. We all mess up every now and then. We all make bad decisions. Once in a while, we all let our emotions get the best of us.
But still, despite the mistakes we make, some of us still come out very happy, successful, and satisfied. Most others don’t. What’s the difference?
Here’s the real question: Are your mistakes leading you to success… or are they leading you to make MORE mistakes?
And that’s our activational lesson for this week. No matter how many mistakes you make, no matter how frustrated you get, no matter how hopeless the situation may seem, I got one piece of advice for you:
DON’T FOUL OUT!
What do I mean by “Don’t foul out?”
It’s a basketball term. In basketball, when you break a rule, you’re issued a “foul.” And when you commit six fouls, you “foul out,” and you get kicked out of the game.
And that’s DANGEROUS when you’re the team’s superstar! When you foul out, you flush your team’s chances of winning down the drain.
That’s pretty much what happens when you “foul out” in life. You’re the superstar in your life, and when you “foul out,” then your goals in life remain unfulfilled, and you never reach the success you’ve always wanted. That’s a scary thought.
But how DO people “foul out in life?”
Ultimately, we “foul out” in one of two ways: (1) Either we give up, or (2) We run out of time.
Here’s the fact: Life is short. You and I, we won’t be around forever. That means we only get so many chances at success in life, and every “foul” we commit, every mistake and failure we chalk up, every golden opportunity we miss, brings us closer to “fouling out.”
Of course, there’s good news: ANYONE can break the cycle of failure and frustration in their lives. This week’s article will show you how.
It all starts with stepping back, looking at your situation, and asking yourself:
“AM I NURTURING INSANITY IN MY LIFE?”
Here’s what I mean by “insanity.” Have you ever heard of Albert Einstein? My friend Albert once said:
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over, and expecting different results.
Put simply: You can’t make the same mistakes over and over, and think you’ll win in the end!
Failing doesn’t make you a failure. It’s failing to adjust that makes you a failure. In life, it’s not the strongest who survive, but the most adaptable!
In basketball, your team needs to score more points than the other team to win. And the more your team breaks the rules, the more fouls you commit… and the smaller your chances of winning the game.
So to get back in the game, you need to take a time out, regroup, make the right adjustments in the game plan, and then get right back into the grind, a little smarter than before.
Likewise, in life, there are rules to be followed. No matter what your dream is: Whether it’s to graduate with honors, or to get that promotion, or to win that championship, or to become a millionaire entrepreneur, etc… Chances are someone else has already done it before.
They achieved YOUR dream by following certain rules.
Here’s a suggestion: Instead of trying to forge your own path, why not walk down the road they’ve already paved for you?
Instead of making the same mistakes over and over, why not follow the rules THEY followed on the way to success?
FOLLOW THE RULES!
Over the past several years, I’ve talked to millions of people in schools, sports teams, corporations, individuals, and advocacy groups all over the world. And I’ve noticed something: When it comes to success, there are really only two kinds of people in the world:
1.) People who make excuses, and
2.) People who make adjustments.
Naturally, the people in the second category are the ones who become very successful. Everyone makes mistakes… but not everyone makes adjustments. And by making adjustments, your mistakes end up pushing you closer to your dreams. That’s the key!
You grind. You make a mistake. You make an adjustment to follow the “rules” more closely. You grind again, this time better and smarter. Repeat until you get what you want.
Over time, all those little adjustments will line up and bring you to one success after another. Achieving your dreams becomes so much easier.
5 STEPS TO BREAK YOUR OWN PERSONAL CYCLE OF FAILURE
Right now, I want you to ask yourself: What failure, mistake, or frustration keeps happening over and over in your life? What recurring “foul” do you keep committing, and it’s holding you back from achieving your one big goal?
Take a quick “time out” in your life and do this 5-step exercise:
Step #1: Get a sheet of paper and write down your “one big foul” at the top. Just be honest with yourself.
Step #2: Below It, write down the reasons WHY you keep committing your “one big foul.” Do you keep running out of time? Do you keep running out of energy? Do you lack the skills? Do you have bad habits that make you mess up? Or do you simply NOT know what the “rules” are?
Write them all down!
Step #3: Below the reasons, list the ADJUSTMENTS you need to make to stop committing your “one big foul.”
Maybe there are some people you need to hang out with less.
Maybe there are some TV shows and video games you need to quit.
Maybe there are some skills you need to develop.
Maybe there are some websites you need to stop visiting.
Maybe there are some groups you need to leave.
Maybe there are some habits at home you need to change.
List down as many adjustments as you can think of, but do highlight two or three adjustments that you’ll make THIS WEEK.
Step #4: Below everything, write down in big letters – you guessed it – “DON’T FOUL OUT!”
Step #5: Tape it on the wall, read it every day, and EXECUTE!
Remember: You don’t fail when you make mistakes. You only fail when you don’t make the adjustments. And you only fail when you quit.
So don’t stop working. Don’t stop grinding. Don’t foul out.
And stop saying “I am a loser,” because success may just be an adjustment away.
Stay humble and hungry,
P.S.: If you haven’t seen it yet, check out this week’s Monday Morning Activation video. If you like it, be sure to subscribe and share!